Do You Feed Negativity?

When negativity knocks at your door, do you recognize it and send it away? Or do you invite it in for dinner, or worse, to stay with you as long as it likes–possibly for your lifetime?

First, be clear that being the manager of negativity in your life isn’t about the fact that you have negative thoughts or feelings–you will. It isn’t about eliminating negative thoughts and feelings so you never experience them again–that’s not realistic. It is about training your conscious mind to notice such thoughts and feelings when they appear, and to recognize the different “costumes” negativity wears. You can’t manage negativity until you recognize and own how you engage it.

Whatever costume negativity puts on, what’s really embodied is fear. You might call it anger or another emotion, but underlying any negative emotion is fear–the fear you’ll lose something. This has everything to do with living in your personal power.

Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross said, “Natural anger lasts for only about seventeen seconds.” This means the actual emotion you feel (any negative emotion) has its full-charge expression for that period of time. Past that, your conscious (and subconscious) mind takes over, usually engaging in reactions related to whatever fear was triggered.

When fear is triggered, you may project a negative future vision. You may pull up old memories to support why you feel the way you do. You’d call this justification for the reaction. What it really is, is feeding negativity–because you aren’t focused on what you can do that’s productive; you’re focused on self-preservation at any cost. Depending on your habitual reaction mode, you may close up like a telescope or let your sharp claws and teeth out.

Here are several common forms of negativity you may feed (or feed on):
• Prejudice of ANY kind (race, religion, financial status, etc.)
• Demonstrating lack of self-respect or respect for others (if you do one, you do the other)
• Unproductive criticism (everyone needs to vent; but there’s a productive way to do this)
• Replaying past events as though they’re still happening (which only triggers more negative emotions in the present)
• Allowing more “news” into your life than you really need to know (this includes any form of “entertainment” or “information” that creates extraneous negative feelings for you about anything that doesn’t have a direct impact on your life or how you choose to engage it)
• Intentionally negative “humor” or comments (sadly, the ability to slam someone with hurtful words, directly or indirectly, is considered a prized trait)
• Paying more attention to what others are doing than what you’re doing
• Telling jokes or using comments to bash others (gender-bashing is top of this list)
• Stating speculations then acting as though they’re facts (ignoring that maybe you don’t have enough information)
• Using the words “always” and “never” (or labels), especially when you assign them to others’ behaviors (which closes your mind to allowing they “could” one day be different)

You can add more to this list as they occur to you. A good question to ask yourself whenever you do one of these is, “What fear is underneath this for me, and how can I address it appropriately?”

Feeding negativity is a learned habit. You can:
1. Acknowledge you engage in it.
2. Remind yourself to get your own attention about this. Author Guy Finley said, “No intention can be any stronger than our ability to remember it in the moment that it is needed.”
3. Start now to begin to do things differently. Choose to ask if your attitude, words, and actions are aligned with opening the path for a desired productive experience and outcome. There’s a difference in telling someone you feel angry and why and asking them to participate in a mutually beneficial resolution, and verbally attacking them. There’s a difference in telling yourself what you feel, why you feel it, and considering what you can do rather than entering the negative vortex.
4. Consider how you really see your authentic self. It isn’t that you have to suppress your personality or nature. It isn’t that you have to deny and keep quiet about what you really feel. It’s about what you do from there and how you do it. What do you really want to feed–as your experience and what you believe about yourself? If you don’t believe in your personal power, and right to live from it, how can you expect to act from there?

Train yourself to respond more often than you react; and acknowledge that will take conscious energy management. Reactions happen when you feel events or others have more power than you do. They don’t; that’s an illusion. They can only have as much power over you as you give them.

Any person or event that tests your personal power is an opportunity for you to pause and consider how you really see yourself: are you a volunteer victim or someone who looks out for your best interests–with integrity? If you feed (or feed on) negativity on a consistent basis, it can seem nearly impossible to feel you embody personal power.

Personal power is not a way of acting–it’s a way of BEing, even if you have to BEcome it one more-consciously-aware moment at a time.

Compare how much time you give to negative thoughts, feelings, words, and actions to the time you apply these to what makes you feel authentic, joyful, intentional, fulfilled–living on purpose.

No matter what’s going on around you, you always choose how to experience and process it. When you embrace this as a fact, you stand in your personal power. The more you do this, the more your innate power expands.

Feed negativity or feed intentional living. The choice is yours.

About the Author:

Joyce Shafer (jls1422@yahoo.com) is a Life Empowerment Coach and Author of “Reinvent Yourself: Refuse to Settle for Less in Life and Business.” 

Chattanooga vs. Frisco… A Battle For FCS National Championship Game Rights

The battle lines have been drawn, and the spoils to a football dynasty are at stake.. No, it’s not the F-C-S national championship game at Finley Stadium tomorrow night. It’s the rights to host the game for the next 3 years. Chattanooga’s trying to keep it, a suburb of Dallas is trying to land it.. We all know what Chattanooga’s got to offer, so our NewsChannel 9 investigation checks out the other team on the field. e found a different kind of competition just as fierce off the field, as on it. In this corner, the challenger.. Pizza Hut Park, Frisco, Texas outside Dallas.. It seats over 21,000 seats. And in this corner, the champion, 13 years straight, Finley Stadium, Chattanooga, Tennessee.. Seats 20,668. The purse… The N-C-Double-A Football Championship Subdivision National Championship game, for the next 3 years.. The game means a four-point-79 million dollar impact to the city that hosts it. Both cities are packing punches, with the Greater Chattanooga Sports and Events Committee touting experience. “Everybody that’s in a key position for this game, has been doing this ten or more years,” says Scott Smith of the Committee, “and that’s hard to match.. ever.” And the Southland Conference in Frisco is touting its sports-friendly atmosphere. “We’ve got obviously, what we think is a state of the art stadium to have the game played in,” says Southland Conference Commissioner Tom Burnett II. Both locations share weather positives.. The weather is practically the same in both cities around the middle of December. In the lodging department, Frisco itself has 1,500 hotel rooms.. Dallas, 30 minutes away has 70-thousand. Chattanooga has 9-thousand hotel rooms, all within 15 miles of downtown. For things to do outside the stadiums, both Chattanooga and Dallas have aquariums, lMAX theaters, Museums of Art, and Children’s Museums.. But Frisco is doing what Chattanooga did several years ago. The city is reinventing itself, catering to people who love sports. “We’re home to a minor league hockey team, we’re home to an NBA development league as well,” says Burnett, “a team in Frisco… there’s a lot of things to do.” Not to mention a huge mall, specialty stores, and outdoor festivals. Neither Chattanooga nor Frisco would reveal how much their incentives packages are worth. “I don’t think there’s a single area where I could clearly say that they have an edge over us,” says Smith. “Certainly any opportunity we have as a community is going to be very tough, because they’re doing so well here,” says Burnett. But the winner in this competition, gets an almost 5 million dollar economic windfall. The game is tomorrow night.. Both Chattanooga and Frisco will put their respective packages together, and present those to the N-C-A-A sometime next month. A decision on the host city for the next 3 years, will be made in a couple of months..

Courtesy of Calvin Sneed, Channel 9 News, Chattanooga, TN

STONEBRIAR CENTRE MALL OPEN AFTER TEMPORARY EVACUATION

STONEBRIAR CENTRE MALL OPEN AFTER TEMPORARY EVACUATION; MALL CLOSED THIS MORNING DUE TO AMMONIA LEAK (December 10, 2009) An ammonia leak at Stonebriar Centre mall has been stopped. The mall and the ice rink are now open for business. The mall was temporarily closed this morning while crews worked to assess the ammonia leak contained to the ice rink area inside the mall. As a result, the mall was evacuated. Frisco Fire Hazmat successfully ventilated the area to a safe level so service technicians could make repairs to the refrigeration system that cools the ice. Service technicians are working to make repairs to the cooling unit that maintains the ice temperature at the rink. The leak was reported at approximately 6:30 a.m. No one was injured. “We evacuated the mall for precautionary reasons, even though there were only a few employees from various stores here at the time,” said Frisco Fire Chief Mack Borchardt.

The Twelve Dysfunctional Personal Productivity Personalities

Everyone has a productivity personality. It’s the collection of strengths, weaknesses, and day-to-day habits that come together to determine how a person works best.

It is important to get a handle on your own personal productivity personality, but don’t stop there. After all, most of us depend on others at some point in our day and the individual work styles and attitudes of those around us can have a huge impact on our own ability to get things done.

1. Scrappers
The scrapper’s desk look like a modern art exhibit, covered in scraps of paper. They write important notes on whatever is close at hand, whether it’s a fast food receipt or the back of an envelope.

Handling the scrapper: You can’t force scrappers to adopt a comprehensive planning system. Just make sure that items pertaining to your work don’t get lost in the shuffle. Send follow-up e-mails detailing key meeting take-aways, check in before important deadlines, and never fail to follow up on a delegated task.

2. Pilers
Pilers keep everything and file nothing. There will be boxes on the floor and every inch of desk space will be occupied by stacks of paper.

Handling the piler: Chances are that any document, book, or report that you put in the piler’s hands is going to end up in heap someplace. Also, be sure to set clear deadlines. Their idea of giving something a high priority is placing it on their “immediate attention” stack. Don’t ask them to do something “right away,” ask them to do it by a specific date.

3. Multi-taskers
Multi-taskers always have a thousand things going on at once and generally take pride in it. They get many things started but few things completed. And they often appear frazzled, overwhelmed, and scattered.

Handling the multi-tasker: Always use caution when working with a multi-tasker. He or she will rarely admit that they don’t have the capacity to take on another task and can easily become distracted by competing priorities. Always double-check to make sure that they can and will do what is expected in an agreed-upon timeframe.

4. Interrupters
Interrupters will constantly show up at your desk, interrupting your day and derailing your train of thought. Their interruptions are almost always ill-timed.

Handling the interrupter: If someone asks if you have a minute, don’t be afraid to tell them you don’t. The more cautiously you guard your own time, the more others will begin thinking twice before asking for it needlessly. A polite response to an interruption is to simply point out that no, you don’t have any time right now but would be happy to meet later in the day if needed. A simple “Do Not Disturb” sign can go a long way — just don’t abuse it.

5. Procrastinators
Procrastinators start things with just enough time to squeeze them in before the deadline. They also tend to put off high-value (often challenging) tasks in favor of more pleasant, less critical ones.

Handling the procrastinator: The best way to get out ahead of a procrastinator is to plan in advance and evaluate results on an ongoing basis. If your procrastinator is expected to deliver a weekly progress report, they’ll be more likely to stay on track.

6. Socializers
Socializers waste inordinate amounts of time chatting with coworkers and keeping up with the personal lives of everyone at the office. They’re great at planning the company party, but tend to fall short in other ways.

Handling the socializer: Socializers do what they do because they get something out of it — interaction, stress relief, distraction from work, whatever. If you don’t have anything along those lines to offer, they’ll lost interest in you pretty quickly. Politely point out that you are trying to keep your day on track and need to get back to what you were doing.

7. Meeting addicts
Some people apparently just love to call meetings, often resulting in a lot of time wasted by everyone involved.

Handling the meeting addict: Don’t be afraid to decline a meeting when it’s appropriate to do so. Simply state that you don’t feel your presence is needed and ask that you be kept in the loop on any important outcomes that might affect your work. Second, don’t be afraid to suggest an alternative to a meeting. When you get the request, simply call the organizer to ask if the matter could be handled by e-mail or conference call. You might be able to resolve the issue on the spot and save everyone a lot of time.

8. Crisis creators
A lack of planning by one person leads to a crisis for everyone else. Even minor issues are exaggerated into a full-blown disaster and everyone involved ends up feeling stressed. Crisis creators seem to always be fighting fires and coworkers are often dragged into the fray.

Handling the crisis creator: Unfortunately, we often have to step in and help fight fires even if they aren’t our fault. If a certain individual is constantly working in crisis mode, it is important to keep a cool head and don’t get overly stressed. Once the crisis is resolved, insist on a debriefing meeting to figure out what went wrong. Once crisis creators realize that problems aren’t going to be forgotten, they’ll be more inclined to stay out of trouble in the first place.

9. E-mailers
E-mailers send an e-mail for everything. They never use the phone or walk across the hall to deliver a ten-word message, and they LOVE the “Reply All” button.

Handling the e-mailer: You won’t have much luck influencing the e-mail habits of a colleague, although you can request the recipients do NOT Reply to All. What you CAN do is set clear expectations concerning your own use of e-mail. If you only check your messages a few times each day, tell people. If e-mail isn’t a good way to get a response from you, they’ll stop using it for everything.

10. Packrats
Packrats have never thrown anything away in their professional lives. They are often overwhelmed by their own treasure trove of obsolete documents.

Handling the packrat: Packrats are sometimes highly organized creatures, but are often more worried about the thickness of their project files than they are about what’s inside. Never trust a packrat to manage priorities or to take away the key points from any given interaction. Be direct about what you need from them so you don’t end up with a ton of unnecessary research or extraneous background information.

11. Perfectionists
By insisting on doing everything perfectly, perfectionists generally fail to accomplish much at all. They work hard, but complete little. Perfectionists keep meticulous meeting notes, promise the world during planning sessions, and often seem to crack up just as the project is coming together.

Handling the perfectionist: When you are working with a perfectionist, it’s a good idea to plan for frequent touch points throughout the project. Define the level of expectation and the exact deliverables. This will help keep the perfectionist working in manageable (if imperfect) chunks and also give the person a chance to dazzle you with little presentations throughout the project.

12. Workaholics
Workaholics work an 80 hour week and never miss an opportunity to remind you of it. Puzzling, though, is the fact that they seem to accomplish less than others working half the hours. The workaholic typically has no boundaries between work and home life.

Handling the workaholic: Remember that to a workaholic, “end of day” does not mean five o’clock. Usually, it means “before tomorrow.” When you are expecting something from a workaholic, keep in mind that you will likely see an e-mail roll in at 10:45 p.m. Since they plan to be working into the evening anyway, they tend to waste time during normal business hours. You can subtlety nudge them in your direction by saying things such as “I’d like to have that by three o’clock.”

 I have no doubt that at least a few of these 12 dysfunctional productivity personalities will have you thinking of someone you work with. But also keep in mind that each of us has a little of one or more of these personalities in us as well. So as we work to deal better with our troublesome coworkers, we should also be willing to improve on our own little areas of personal dysfunction.

© 2009 Laura Stack. Laura Stack is a personal productivity expert, author, and professional speaker who helps busy workers Leave the Office Earlier® with Maximum Results in Minimum Time®. She is the president of The Productivity Pro®, Inc., a time management training firm specializing in productivity improvement in high-stress organizations. Since 1992, Laura has presented keynotes and seminars on improving output, lowering stress, and saving time in today’s workplaces. She is the bestselling author of three works published by Broadway Books: The Exhaustion Cure (2008), Find More Time (2006) and Leave the Office Earlier (2004). Laura is a spokesperson for Microsoft, 3M, and Day-Timers®, Inc and has been featured on the CBS Early Show, CNN, and the New York Times. Her clients include Cisco Systems, Sunoco, KPMG, Nationwide, and 3M. To have Laura speak at your next event, call 303-471-7401. Visit www.TheProductivityPro.com to sign up for her free monthly productivity newsletter.

Frisco Named Finalist City for NCAA FCS Title Games

FRISCO, Texas – The NCAA notified Frisco officials Monday afternoon that the city is a finalist to possibly play host to the NCAA Division I Football Championship games following the 2010, 2011 and 2012 seasons.

The NCAA did not release the names of other cities that may also be advancing in the effort to serve as host to the title game, previously known as the Division I-AA Football Championship. Earlier media reports indicated that Spokane, Wash., Missoula, Mont., Little Rock, Ark., and Chattanooga, Tenn., the current NCAA championship site, also submitted bid proposals in October.

The Frisco bid is a joint effort between the City of Frisco, Hunt Sports Group, LLC, the Frisco Economic Development Corporation, the Frisco Convention and Visitors Bureau, the Frisco Chamber of Commerce. The Southland Conference, also based in Frisco, would serve as the host conference for the national championship that would be played at Pizza Hut Park, the city’s 23,500-seat multi-purpose stadium.

In addition, the Frisco bid effort was endorsed by numerous entities, including the U.S. Congressional delegation from North Texas, the area’s state legislators, and other Dallas-Fort Worth based collegiate sports organizations such as the AT&T Cotton Bowl, the National Football Foundation/College Football Hall of Fame, the Big 12 Conference and Conference USA. DFW International Airport and Dallas-based Southwest Airlines also submitted letters of support for the championship endeavor.

“We’re very excited about Frisco being one step closer to being selected to host the NCAA Division I Football Championship,” Mayor Maher Maso said. “We’re very honored to be part of such an impressive team, which includes our partners at the Southland Conference, Pizza Hut Park and the Frisco Chamber of Commerce. We’re also very honored to have received an endorsement letter from the North Texas delegation from the U.S. House of Representatives. Together, we’ll continue to work hand in hand to bring this sporting event to Frisco, benefiting the entire North Texas region.”

A contingent of Frisco city leaders and others involved in the bid process will attend this year’s championship in Chattanooga on Dec. 18, and it’s possible that a Frisco site visit from NCAA officials will occur in the near future. A final presentation will be made by Frisco officials before the NCAA Division I Football Committee in late February, and a final decision is expected shortly after that.

“We are honored to be part of the Frisco effort selected by the NCAA committee to advance in the process, and look forward to making the case for Frisco as the ideal location for the NCAA Championship,” Southland Conference commissioner Tom Burnett said. “Whether it’s the state-of-the-art Pizza Hut Park, the unmatched national air service into our two major airports, our first-class hotels, or all the tremendous retail and entertainment options in Frisco and throughout the Dallas-Fort Worth metro area, we believe our destination location can provide a wonderful and memorable championship experience for the competing teams and other visitors.”

Written by Todd Lamb (SLC)

North Texas: Wide Open For Sustainability And Growth! Profit! People! Planet!

Date: Wednesday, November 18, 2009 Time: 8:00 a.m. – 5:00 p.m. Location: The University of Texas at Arlington, Riverbend Campus, 7300 Jack Newell Boulevard, S., Fort Worth, TX 76118 MAP Click here for More Information or to Register! Growing the Texas economy is a priority for Governor Rick Perry. As an expression of that commitment, the governor’s office is sponsoring a complimentary one-day event on November 18, 2009. The event is organized by the Small Business Development Center for Enterprise Excellence headquartered at UTA’s Riverbend/ARRI campus in NE Fort Worth (www.arri.uta.edu ).   The goal of this conference is to provide North Texas business owners and entrepreneurs with new skills, ideas and examples to grow profitable, sustainable businesses. The keynote speeches and workshops throughout the day focus on the wide-open opportunities to achieve the 3 Ps: Profit, Planet & People which translates to growing your business, sustaining your business & our global community as well as advancing your company culture to enhance your best resource – your people! Keynote speakers include: ·  Richard Greene, former regional administrator for the EPA, discussing climate change and its accompanying business opportunities and challenges. ·  David Vinjamuri, author of the popular book “Accidental Branding” (www.accidentalbranding.com) shares stories of how entrepreneurs accidentally created companies like Burt’s Bees, Baby Einstein and Craigslist.   Workshops focus on the Profit, Planet & People: ·  Profit 101 teaches you how to grow sales profitably. ·  Go Green to See More Green demonstrates waste reduction methods with case studies and tips for your business. ·  Creating a Culture for Improvement teaches the principles of Servant Leadership used successfully by Southwest Airlines and other local companies.   This event is the perfect way to prepare your company for wide open sustainable growth in 2010! Register Now

Frisco Home For The Holidays

Special Message About Attacks On The U.S. Chamber’s Facebook Page

In this time of economic uncertainty there is a daunting list of issues which we, as a country, must address. The U.S. Chamber believes that the only way to develop sustainable solutions is through the hard work of consensus building and honest debate. Unfortunately, there are those who are not interested in consensus and are trying every possible distraction to force individuals and organizations from the debate.

On Friday, the group MoveOn.org asked their members to visit the U.S. Chamber’s Facebook page and perpetuate an incorrect assessment of our member numbers. Throughout the day and weekend we were bombarded by activists who posted the same thing over and over again with no interest in understanding our positions or working with us on solutions. As strong believers in free speech, we have let them talk and have provided policy links for those who may be interested in a constructive debate. Visit our page to see our response, www.facebook.com/uschamber.

We recently learned that some of our member pages, including local and state chambers, are also being targeted. We apologize for any inconvenience this may cause. As always, we are determined to ensure that the business community has a voice in these critical times and will not be deterred by those who prefer protest to progress.

Thank you very much for your continued support. We urge you to express continued support by joining our Campaign for Free Enterprise at http://www.freeenterpriseamerica.com/. If you have any questions or concerns, please feel free to contact me at 202-463-5638.

Sincerely,

Bill Miller
Senior Vice President and National Political Director

P.S. Here is MoveOn.org’s note on their Facebook page and here is the U.S. Chamber’s Facebook page.

Christmas In The Square…

Christmas in the Square

Largest choreographed holiday lights and music display in Texas
November 27, 2009 – January 3, 2010 5:30PM – 9:30PM every evening

Frisco Square
Main St. at Coleman Blvd, Frisco TX
Dallas North Tollway at Main St., Frisco, TX 75034

Additional Activities/Attractions – 5:30PM –9:30PM, December 11, 12, 18 and 19.

• Carriage Rides
• Trackless Train
• Santa Claus (In the Market Place)
• Miniature Trains display

Special Events (One Night Only)

December 15
5:15PM  Santa Claus parachutes onto Simpson Plaza in front of Frisco City Hall presented by Babe’s Chicken Dinner Restaurant

December 18
5:30PM – 9:30PM Three lane inner tubing snow slide
5:30PM – 7:30PM Hot Air Balloon Glow presented by ReMax

Details: www.friscoSquare.com

Phone: 469-633-1721

Five Ways To Unlock Your Potential

This is an interesting time to be alive. While it seems on the outside like chaos, I am seeing things in a different way. The way I see it, lots of people are getting more of what they really want by getting a big and unexpected push.

You might be scratching your head right now and saying to yourself “that gal is crazy — totally nuts”. I know it must seem that way but keep reading — you might find a nugget in there somewhere.

You see, most of the world trudges through life with “have-tos” running through their head, and “wish for” silently consuming their thoughts. The factory worker who really wants to start his or her own business. The executive who really would like to quit, but is stuck with golden handcuffs. The office worker who wants to go back to school. These are all examples of people wanting something and not taking action to get it.

So the world is giving them a push. Layoffs, cutbacks, broken contracts and change are everywhere. This, my dear readers is one of the biggest opportunities you are ever going to have to reach your potential and finally really get that thing you’ve been secretly and silently wanting.

You might be thinking “Well, okay I get that, but why does it have to be so hard?” The truth is: it DOESN’T have to be hard. We make it hard by holding so tight onto the thing we don’t want that we fail to appreciate the opportunities at hand.

I have a private client who has just been through the 2-Day Turnaround breakthrough program. When she came in, she knew things weren’t working and she wasn’t reaching her potential but didn’t want to let go of the little bits that she believed were working. We found the irony in that she was working 16 hour days and had very little results to show for it. Little by little, she began to realize that the choices she had made could be reversed — and that her potential could change immediately.

What she really wanted and what she was doing were two completely different things. We formulated a plan for her to let go of things not working and realign herself with what she really wanted. The opportunities started showing up immediately. Within 3 months, she completely transformed her life and her business and is now happily doing the work she loves for clients she adores.

Here are 5 things that were holding her back from her potential (and might be holding you back too).

1. Not admitting that things aren’t working
If things are difficult and struggles are an everyday occurrence, something is terribly wrong. Struggle is different than challenge. Challenge can be invigorating — struggle is draining. The first step in unlocking your potential is to take inventory of your life and consider what’s not working. The symptoms of things not working will be lack of something (not enough time, money, energy, relationships, etc)

2. Not knowing your style and values
Understanding your unique blueprint of the world is critical if you’re going to make the right decisions for you. Consider what’s important to you about your life and match your values to your activities to get yourself in alignment with your dreams.

3. Saying “Yes” to too many things
What activities are taking up your time? What’s on your plate right now? And more importantly, what needs to come off your plate? Are you trying to force yourself to complete a project, have a relationship, build a business that doesn’t work? Who or what do you need to say “No” to today?

4. Not being comfortable not knowing
Who knows what will happen today, tomorrow, next week or next year for that matter? Spending time in an anxious state of not knowing is not helpful or productive in any way, and will only make you more fearful. Having a death grip on something that’s not working is more detrimental than being in the “goo” of not knowing. All creation takes place in this state of not knowing because it’s becoming known!

5. Not having faith and trust in the process
When you are on the path to reaching your potential, it sometimes feels like the world has gone badly awry. The constant shifting and changing (and people leaving and new ones appearing) can have a devastating effect if you try to manipulate every situation to your needs. During this time, it is important to examine what IS working and what you ARE working toward instead of looking back and noticing the destruction.

I know that for my client (and myself too) these are the things we constantly go through as we evolve. It does become easier to go through the roller coaster of life with a few rules (and some good friends) along the way.

By Stephanie Frank